As a child I grew up quickly.  I had to... it was a matter of survival.  My dad was out of control, my mom was out of control and they
were in control of me.  By the time I was nine I was making meals trying to stop the violence.  By ten I was lying to try and stop the
beatings.  Nothing worked.  I spent most of my life filled with anger and shame because I couldn't fix it.  The fact was
I Was
Powerless...
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by living the promises for Adult Children
The 12 Steps of Adult Children...

1.   We admitted we were powerless over the effects of
alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had
become unmanageable

2.   Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could
restore us to sanity

3.   Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the
care of God as we understand God

4.   Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves

5.   Admitted to God, to our selves, and to another human
being the exact nature of our wrongs

6.   Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects
of character

7.   Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings

8.  Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became
willing to make amends to them all

9.  Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,
except when to do so would injure them or others

10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were
wrong, promptly admitted it

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our
conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying
only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it
out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps,
we tried to carry this message to others who still suffer, and to
practice these principles in all our affairs.

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The 12 Promises of ACOA

1.  We will discover our real identities by loving and accepting
ourselves

2.  Our self-esteem will increase as we give ourselves
approval on a daily basis

3.  Fear of authority figures and the need to "people-please"
will leave us

4.  Our ability to share intimacy will grow inside us

5.  As we face our abandonment issues, we will be attracted
by strengths and become more tolerant of weaknesses

6.  We will enjoy feeling stable, peaceful, and financially secure

7.  We will learn how to play and have fun in our lives

8.  We will chose to love people who can love and be
responsible for themselves

9.  Healthy boundaries and limits will become easier for us to
set

10. Fears of failures and success will leave us, as we
intuitively make healthier choices

11. With help from our ACA support group, we will slowly
release our dysfunctional behaviors

12. Gradually, with our Higher Power's help, we learn to expect
the best and get it

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